Thanksgiving was rather interesting as we were expected to go up to my parents house, but it snowed to the point it would have gone at least to my son's waist, and my daughter's shoulders. Plus we ended up getting a bit sick anyway. We had the makings of our own thanksgiving meal, for that 'just in case situation' but my mother-in-law said she'd bring a couple things to add to what we had. Oh no, she brought us a whole darn Thanksgiving meal. That was a surprise, and amazing, because the last thing Brent and I wanted to do that day was cook (even though most of it would have been easy to prepare. We had stuffed turkey rolls [vegan style] to just pop in the oven and everything else was easy to make boxed stuff. Except the mashed potatoes.) So long story short, even though we didn't have thanksgiving with our extended family this year, we were blessed with a beautiful thanksgiving dinner.
My mother-in-law watched the kids twice while we went out (one was simply to the dollar store to get holiday decorations. Though we did grab a bite to eat as well) within a couple weeks of each other, which was an amazing blessing because we don't get to go out much as a couple. It was also a huge blessing because this time of year is always a bit of a dark season for my mental health. So it was a much needed blessing
A couple weeks ago, I fell (again) and did something to my knee, which it turns out may have torn a muscle in my upper calf or just behind the knee (no blood clot thankfully, which we were worried about since my right foot swelled up to about twice the size of my left, and I had developed serious pain and swelling in my calf.) The blessing through all this though, is my doctor FINALLY understood the scope of my inability to get around without hurting myself so now we have a plan of action going forth to try and get that under control. I don't have high hopes, but at least it is going somewhere.
But some of the biggest blessings was the turnaround in my own family. I hadn't spoken to my parents in MONTHS because of their insistence on how my identity isn't real, and that I was going down a bad path, among things related to my children. But just before Thanksgiving, I heard someone calling my name as I slept, it was not really part of the dream, so I did some soul searching, and with the help of my ancestral spirits and spirit animals, also called totem animals, I came to the realization it must have been my parents calling out to me. For the first time in years, I talked to my parents without hanging up the phone crying. I still had a lot of fear that this wasn't real, but then my parents came down to drop off holiday treats and presents last week. I decided that I needed to show them that I was a different person from them, believed differently from them, and am on a path of Paganism.
I had the music of Faun on, which is a group that sings in German, (My dad is German, and if you were to take a look at him, he has that stereotypical demeanor, but really he's one of the most hilarious and fun-loving people I know). My mom was insistent that it wasn't German music while Dad wore his, 'I know something you don't smile'. The thing is they use traditional "old world" instruments which produces a different sound than the German music my mom is used to, hence my dad's smirk. Finally I gave up, and said, 'Mom, its German Pagan music.' To which she replied, 'Oh that makes more sense.' (Not really, but shhh) My dad then started into the history of Christmas and how the word used for Christmas doesn't even have much of a connection to Christ, and really means holy night. I think the moment my mom realized the music really was German was when Dad actually translated some of the song that was currently playing. She couldn't deny it after that, since Dad speaks German.
It was a short visit, but filled with merriment and acceptance, which still makes me cry. Especially after the text I got from my mom as they returned home. Apparently Dad wanted that music because he loved it. That probably was one of the last things I expected. But it was great.
A couple days after most of my family celebrated Christmas, I got a lovely text from my brother, and it was amazing because while my family was telling everyone in the giant group text my mom sent out 'Merry Christmas', my brother sent me a private text wishing me 'Happy Holidays' with a sweet personalized message.
As for Yule/Winter solstice, I already wrote about Mother's Night, the night before the Solstice (which isn't something traditionally celebrated in Welsh Pagan tradition surprisingly, but I insisted on incorporating it into my Yule/Solstice celebrations because I actually hate Mother's day. But that's a story for another time.) Solstice was a cool celebration too, because like Mother's night, I had to piece together the ritual and whatnot myself. My favorite part was this that I wrote for the ritual.
Y Tri Mamau
Ancestral spirits, and others who have gone before
Y Anfeiliad and our spirits.
Guide us on this the shortest day and longest night of the year
That the next day we see will indeed start to lengthen,
That the sun and the oak may return to its reign,
May we see through the darkest hours,
Have the promise of light to come,
Mam Awyr, particularly as Sun and Moon are part of you
Guide them to work in harmony, and take their turns
Of ruling over the realms.
Mam Ddaear, guide the Holly King into submission
To the Oak King, that there may peace at Yuletide’s end.
Mam Dwr, even you have a part to play,
You are the ruler of change and fluidity.
Guide us all into acceptance and tranquility
When your waters are heavy, tormentous,
Guide us through, that we in the end may
Be the change the world needs.
As the moon sets, and a new dawn arises,
Let us be filled with hope and cherish
What we have accomplished with your aid.
As the moon sets, may we put away our selfish desires
As the Sun rises, may our hearts be full of charity
Cariad a Goleuni
Diolch a Hwyl
Since then we've been lighting a candle each night until the calendar new year, (Which in many pagan paths is how long Yule lasts, and some celebrating a 13th day on the 1st of the year with a start to the new calendar year with a ritual cleansing and cleaning etc) representing the lengthening of days, and the return of the Oak King, who reigns until the summer solstice when his brother the Holly King battles him for reign over the darkest part of the year, until Winter Solstice.
So back to the title of this post -- It means Midwinter-Thank you very much. For I feel it best represents the blessings recieved and given this holiday season.
Cariad y Goleuni